This is such a great thing to focus on. Many of us including me spend our days running as fast as we can to improve this and improve that, always trying to get ahead and it turns out that we are good to go right now, where we are.
The subtle difference in the frame of mind is world altering.
Not to say we canâ€™t improve, or work for it, but we donâ€™t need the pressure of thinking we must improve to be â€œsomethingâ€ or â€œbetterâ€, the mere act of taking the actions that make us ourselves is enough if we can have satisfaction in them. (more…)
I found myself childless, and alone, living the simple life out on the town yesterday afternoon. No heavy and loud decisions about who wants to go where first, who wants something that they don’t need, who wants something that they do need but I don’t want to buy.
I could do anything I want!
Oddly, I didn’t feel like my usual treats - capaccino, chocolate, sinful decadence at the fast food place. I didn’t want to buy a book, I have too many to read now and not enough time to do it, I didn’t want to buy myself anything.
It is very hard as a mom among “KAOS” to get a moment to relax - or to even take the noise down a few decibals.
Sometimes when we are out and I get back needing â€œa momentâ€, I just put the seat back in our van and stay put while everyone else goes in the house.
Of course your kids have to be old enough to be ok with that, but if they are, itâ€™s a nice break.
I also frequent my “van oasis” when itâ€™s a nice day but cool. I’m a heat monger so I like soak up the solar heat from the windows in the van while digging into a good book, or sometimes I write or do what ever - even a catnap!