Â I was recently reading a blog post about a 6 year old child who is showing some odd behaviour. She has just begunÂ grade one at a new school this year.
You can read the full question to my replyÂ and Nikki’s answer at her awesome parenting blog called Guilty ParentsÂ
This isÂ my thought on it…Â
Â It sounds like she might be stressed out by something at the new school, or just by the adjustment.
Also, grade one is a large transition from the younger grades. Maybe she is feeling some pressure by the new demands on her, in many ways, starting grade one is the next step towards being a big kid (although it doesn’t seem like they are that big and could be compared to starting a new job in a new town for us. Maybe she is having a hard time dealing with the new challenges.
My son had a hard time adjusting to a new school when he was in grade one as well.
Can you encourage a friendship or two between herself and another child in her class? That could make a world of difference. For my son, ultimately, it is his friendships that has made it a positive thing for him.Â Ask her if she wants to invite anyone over, plan something special for that time. Repeat as necessary :0)
The best thing that I can think of is as Nikki suggested, constant and open communication. And encouragement, extra attention and support. Maybe tell her that the other kids are making the same adjustment too, and probably feel the same way she does.
Maybe she needs some special time with Mom and Dad? My daughter used to LOVE to go out for a muffin and a drink at our local restaurant.
It was a good time!
Maybe she is feeling a little scared. Does she like going?Â Maybe she feels forced and even a little abandoned if she doesn’t.
If you can make her understand that she has to go, and that it isn’t your decision, it will make her better accept it, especially if she is getting quality time with you outside of the school day.
It’s tough for kids sometimes. Show your support and your love, but stay firm in what is expected of her and make it clear that acting out will not solve the situation.
Aurelia Williams, a regular contributor here and a certified life coach, has created a guide called “Finding More Family Time”Â to help us to spend more time with our families.Â You would think that it would be simple, but sometimes it is anything but, and it is one of the most important issues in family life today.
Â This is a big issue for me as well because I often feel that I don’t make enough time for family, especially as the kids get older. Speaking of Parent Guilt, if you have one regret in life, don’t make it that you missed out on your family when you had the chance. As a mom of older kids who just keep getting older and busier, it’s a painful thought.
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