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    The Lure of the Forbidden?

    Wed, Jan 6, 2010

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    I was thinking some more on the aspect of failure, self sabotage and how the 'forbidden' thing calls to us, even if it's something we don't even want!

    I thought it would be a good thing to examine before going into the NYTC Challenge on the 11th.

    What is it about forbidden things?

    I think it could be simply that they are something withheld from us, by their very nature.

    And you know what that means.


    And we feel deprived.

    So every time we feel even slightly the urge to reward ourselves, to 'live a little' or do something different, where do we go?

    Straight to the forbidden of course.


    When this happens there are two things you need to do to stop the cycle in it's tracks – it will never bother you or sabotage your efforts again if you do these two things.

    • identify that you are doing it. This process is very insidious – by it's very nature we don't even realize that we are being manipulated by our own false thought process – because it is OUR thought process. How do we know?
    • Ask yourself  – "Do I really WANT this thing? Am I willing to pay the price. As you know, the forbidden ALWAYS has a very high price. That's why it's forbidden, right?  It's usually too high.

    As a rule, I find that as soon as I've identified the fact that I'm attracted to the forbidden aspect – not the food binge, skipped exercise or bad choice – it quickly loses it's attraction.

    Oh, there is one more thing.

    Just say no.

    When I reach that point, it's easy to say and in fact, all desire is usually gone. OK, there may be a small desire, but having examined the cost and identified what I REALLY WANT, it's hardly a blip on the radar.

    What if you do in fact, really want it?

    Stay tuned, I think that's worth talking about tomorrow, on day 4 of our NYTC Countdown

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    It is definitely the time of year to be getting back on board with a Fit Yummy Mummy 12 Week Challenge – I am counting down the days to being 10lbs lighter and 12 weeks stronger!

    Holly gives us assignments throughout the challenge, today it is to examine perfection and the effect that it has on our results – and how it can more likely than not cause more trouble than it saves. I am looking at that today.

    How about you. Has perfection ever brought you down in your efforts to lose weight or get healthier?